Couples Therapy

What is person-centred couples therapy?

At the heart of the person-centred approach to couples therapy lies not a technique, but a space: a space where two people can begin to meet each other again, beyond the layers of misunderstanding, hurt, or silence that may have built up over time. Person-centered couples therapy does not set out to “fix” either partner, nor does it reduce the relationship to a set of rules to be followed. Instead, it invites both partners into an atmosphere of openness, curiosity, and empathy, where what has remained unspoken can slowly come into the light.

Often in relationships, we find ourselves circling around the same conflicts, repeating patterns that leave us both unheard and alone. In a person-centered approach, the focus is not on who is right or wrong, but on how each partner experiences these moments from within — the feelings, longings, and fears that may not find words in everyday life. As these begin to be expressed and received, the couple discovers new ways of being with each other that are more genuine and alive.

The therapist’s role is not to stand above the couple as a judge or expert, but to join them with presence and care, holding open a safe space where both voices matter equally. From this place, understanding can deepen, trust can grow, and the couple can reconnect with the vitality of their relationship — sometimes in ways that feel surprising, even transformative.

Person-centered couples therapy is therefore less about strategies, and more about creating the conditions in which connection becomes possible again. It is about listening differently — to oneself, to the partner, and to the relationship as something alive between them.